The Paradox of God's Gift

i've always heard of ladies in the church saying "when i was already contented being single and not looking for that someone anymore, just then, he pops up from nowhere." i thought, how can God be so paradoxical in giving His blessing, giving you the very thing that you wanted when you are already willing to give him up graciously (not resignedly) and you thought you do not need that someone anymore?

i think what "He gives it to us when we do not 'seem' to need it" may mean is that:

• He gives him to us when we are already complete in Him first, before another person comes into the scene. He is a jealous God and another wonderful creation taking His place in our heart is not His will.
• Being able to give up 'graciously' the precious gifts is a sign of maturity in receiving them
• The very nature that it is A GIFT says that it is not His obligation towards us. it is a gift... a grace... and so He gives it in His own sweet time! and many who has received their gifts could not have thought of any other perfect timing than His.
• He knows that this gift is not just a momentary present, but a lifetime gift so He wants it to be given, not when "we" need it, but when "He" thinks we need it, and "He" thinks we are well equipped to receive it
• this overall paradox just simply display His sovereignty above all things, even the littlest details of situations pertaining to our God's gift! ;)

so to those who has received them already, continue rejoicing in Him! they are one of the best gifts that any person can ever have in this world.

to those who has not yet received them, be happily patient, be prayerful and be expectantly faithful!