To My Single Girlfriends... Part 1 of 2

singlehood is a stage in our life, just as being a kid, a teen, a young adult, a married person or an elderly is. but unlike being a kid, a teen, a young adult and an elderly which are clearly defined by age, singlehood and being married are not.

when we try to fit these two unto an age bracket, that's when problems begin-- discontent, impatience, frustration and unhappiness. we always had the internal pressure such as "when i reach 25, i should get married"... or "i'm 35, and i'm still single???"... or "oh my, i'm 40 and i don't have a baby yet!!!"...or worse, the external mockeries that push us "hey, when are you getting married?"...

dearies, you can be 30, 40, 50 and still be a single! the amount of time that you'd stay single, and the lenght of time that you'd be married is in God's hand. you maybe given more time to experience the joys AND sorrows of singlehood, or given more time to experience the joys AND sorrows of a married life. a married life isn't necessarily a charmed life, as what we were always taught, nor singlehood isn't always a pityful stage...

God is so wise in not putting all the good things in one stage. and man is so unwise into always wanting to hop out of the stage he is in without enjoying it fully (or in contrast, enjoying it soooo much and never wanting to leave it), onto the next, oblivious of its ugly aspects thinking that the other stages will always be better. oh, happines then will always be like the horizon for you... so near, yet so far.

i think the secret lies in enjoying all the stages that we go thru in life, especially singlehood, until we are called to the next! living it up honey, coz if you don't, you won't find happiness even in marriage... don't rush out of singlehood, as you may just quickly bounce back to it...

there are those who are single since birth, and a number are newly single--- fresh out of a broken relationship. to all of us, cheers, i have good news to us girls...

gone are the days when singlehood is typecasted with the negative connotation of spinsterhood.
gone are the days when singlehood is socially unacceptable.
gone are the days when singlehood is boring, a state you'd like to jump out from.
gone are the days when singlehood is only enjoyed by men.

am i justifying my current state? no, i am stating facts. facts that many of us need to open our eyes to, and willingly embrace.

so the next time someone pesters you about your lovelife, just be cool with it and get used to it. do you think it will stop after you finally get a new guy? nope! i guarantee you it'l just start a new, yet still nagging question 'when are you getting married?'... and after you get married, 'when are you going to have a baby?'... and after you have a baby, 'when are you going to have another baby?', and so on and on...

didn't you notice that most of these questions come from people who does not really know much about you and are just trying to have some small talk? so don't let them affect you...

or, or, they are from real friends you haven't gotten in touch with for quite sometime? i'm sure you'd not take it against them...

you may disagree, but really, no man will complete you.... and as preachy as it may sound, but believe me, only God can! that i guarantee! ;)

so chill out, smile and give them your new attitude! go girl!